Staying Up in a Long-Drawn-Out Job Search
No doubt about it, job searching can be a draining, emotionally gut-wrenching, and depressing experience. The world as you know it hangs in the balance throughout a long, anxiety-ridden jaunt through the unknown. As a job search expert, a big part of what I do is help clients stay "up" emotionally throughout the process. I feel for you! So here are some thoughts on how to stay up during an extended job search, contributed by real live job seekers like yourself:
- Treat your body like the temple it is: quit smoking, exercise, eat yummy and nutritious foods, rest well, keep yourself meticulously well-groomed. Pamper yourself! For more great ideas on self-care, go to www.selfnurture.com.
- Get outside each and every day for at least 30 minutes - fresh air, sunshine, and nature are free and powerful medicine.
- Stay away from booze and other chemical depressants.
- Limit Internet, television, and other electronic depressants.
- Volunteer for worthwhile causes where your contributions are truly appreciated.
- Go to church, meditate, do yoga, read inspirational books - do things to keep your perspective.
- Avoid grumpy, pessimistic, critical, demanding people (how to do this if you're married to one, I don't know…). Instead, hang out with supportive, energetic, POSITIVE people who are always trying something new. And contrary to your gut instinct, it's often quite helpful to socialize with other unemployed people as long as they're perky, can-do folks who are not going to let life get them down.
- Along those lines, spend some time with babies and puppies and kitties - in other words, those who truly experience the joy of living and therefore can offer you unconditional love.
- Get a part-time job that you can get at least a little excitement from.
- Throw yourself a pity party - I'm serious! Invite your wisest, closest friends, dress in black (or sackcloth and ashes if you're really dramatic), have party favors and appropriate hors d'ouevres (Kraft Macaroni and Cheese?). Go all out and really get it all out of your system, then move on.
- Ask your closest friends to tell you five great things about you.
- Cut yourself some slack if you're feeling angry, bummed, or tired. Give yourself permission to take a break from